My Process for Douching and Cleaning Out

Everyone's got their process, this is mine...

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Last night I went to a gay sex event in Weho that started around 11 pm.  Now work had been especially draining this week so when I got home at 6 I needed a goddam nap or I just wasn’t gonna make it. So I went ahead and threw back my early dinner (I do intermittent fasting throughout the day) and promptly passed out.  When I woke up around 9 pm, I did the first part of my deep cleaning process, then ate a little more, and then after a little lounging, did the second part of it and was out the door at 10:45 pm. By the end of the event at 4 am, I’d been topped by 7 guys, going multiple rounds with several of them, and topped 4 cute guys myself. 

Three years ago, being able to bottom like this would have been unimaginable.  From the age of 18-26, I spent countless hours stuck in the bathroom douching my very soul away in the hopes of bottoming after.  Sometimes it worked and I was able to get my back blown out. Other times it didn’t, and I cursed the gods who had forsaken me in my hour of need.  The WORST times were when I thought I had been successful, only for my body to betray me in the heat of the moment.  However, after a lot of research and some experimentation I’ve figured out what works for me. 

Before moving on, I need to emphasize this when it comes to cleaning out and bottoming: what matters is what works for YOU.  Everyone’s body is different and so my process won’t be for everyone.  You’re going to need to get acquainted with your body and digestive system in an intimate way to get to the point where you feel fully confident in your abilities.  For some guys this is gonna be easier than others.  My first boyfriend never cleaned out and we never had any issues in the 8 months we dated.  There is no way I could feel so confident and every time I’ve winged it, it wasn’t pretty.  Getting to the point where you feel secure in your process is going to take time, so also have some patience with yourself.  Once you get acclimated to your process, it’ll be worth it. 

The Basics

We should start with some basic foundational information that’ll help you think about how your system is working and what cleaning out is doing.

First off, it usually takes 24-72 hours for food to exit your system after you’ve eaten it (I usually expect 24-36 hrs for myself).  Now, the timing of this is going to depend on what you’re eating, your hydration, fiber intake, and a host of other factors.  This is why, short of food poisoning or something that severely upsets your stomach, you really shouldn’t worry so much about what you eat the day that you’re bottoming.  That said, if you’re gorging on the day that you plan on bottoming a lot, you could well start moving a lot of stuff through that’ll accelerate what you’re dealing with when you try to clean out because that’ll cause a bit of pressure in your system.  

Another important point is your diet itself.  The fact is that the more your diet is made up of whole foods and contains natural fiber, the more consolidated your stools will be when they exit your system.  The more processed and crap food that goes into your system, the more it’ll be loose and disparate in your system as it exits.  When you’re trying to clean out, you want the former, because the more consolidated the stools, the less you have to worry about it watering down or creeping irregularly through your system.  If you douche, you gotta remember that it's gonna make it all the more watery, and if the processed food sludge is getting watered down, it’s gonna get gnarly real quick. 

Now even a healthy whole food diet may well not be enough.  It’s not been for me.  That’s why I use Metamucil (sometimes I get the regular stuff or the sugar free stuff).  This is psyllium husk powder which I mix into a glass of *cold* water (the fiber starts to gel in water and its gelling will accelerate faster in warm water) before or right after I eat a meal.  Effectively, once the metamucil hits the stomach in water form, it’s going to be gelling with whatever was eaten and will help keep it consolidated as it passes through your system.  Please note that this will still help only so much if the food eaten was highly processed, but it has done wonders for me at least.  

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Next, let’s consider the anatomy that we’re working with when we’re bottoming and how it works with cleaning out/douching.  Usually when you’re bottoming, you’re mainly gonna be concerned with the sphincter (the hole into the anal canal not shown on the diagram), the anal canal, the rectum, and then the sigmoid colon.  Now what this diagram doesn’t show is that these parts of your body are not always in nice straight forward angles.  No.  When we’re moving around, eating, drinking etc, they compact or elongate a little bit.  Also, depending on the angle you’re in they’re also going to feel a little different if you go probing around. 

At the basic level then, when you bottom for a guy, his dick is going to be sliding through your sphincter, anal canal, and rectum.  If the guy is bigger (over 8 inches), or he’s really worked your hole out and stretched you a bit, he will hit what is often called the “Second Hole”.  This is the turn from the Rectum into the Sigmoid Colon.  If you have long enough fingers, you can actually feel this yourself because it’ll be the end of what you can reach inside your hole and it’ll be tight, but with a long enough toy or dick you can push past it (with time!).  When you use a dildo that’s long enough, or a top really goes so deep that it can be really painful, this is what’s being hit. Some bottoms will call this when they’ve been “bottomed out”.  Now, the right time and energy can get a toy or dick past in a gentle way, but in general, you’re probably not gonna be taking tons of guys that are hitting this part or going past it. 

The second hole is important when it comes to cleaning out, if you’re trying to just bottom for the next 2 hrs, you’re probably fine cleaning out just what’s in the anal canal and rectum.  However, if you want to bottom for potentially the next 3 or more hrs, you’re going to need to get the water past the second hole and trigger the evacuation of the sigmoid colon. 

Tools and Process

When it comes to the equipment used for cleaning out, I’m a bit of a traditionalist so I stick with a regular douche/enema bulb (pictured in black below).  There are a lot of guys who have other methods of cleaning out, like a shower attachment or a shower bag especially when it comes to a deeper clean.  For information on that, check out Erick Hall’s video here.  Personally, I’ve not liked shower attachments though I might look into the shower bag in the future, and if it works well for me, I’ll do a write up on it then. 

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Once I’ve decided I’m going to bottom, I think about whether I’m going to need to do a basic clean out or a deep one.  If I’m just having a regular hookup over for a session, I’m probably gonna do a basic clean out.  If I’m going to a sex party/orgy/or just want to be ready for a longer period, I’ll do a deep one.  Both start out the same for me. 

First, I get my enema bulb out and a glass/ to fill with water.  I’ve always had an issue with filling the enema up from the sink fossett so what I do is fill the cup with water (lukewarm/room temperature so NOT hot or cold) and then suck the water up with the enema.  Next, after filling the bulb up, I either use spit or a little lube, and apply one finger to my hole to get my sphincter opened a little.  The nozzle of the bulb can be rigid, so I don’t want to risk cutting my hole from the cleaning process.  Once my sphincter is a little loose, I slowly push the nozzle of the bulb into my hole, and then slowly squeeze about ½ a bulb in. 

Note #1: I’m in my shower when I’m squeezing the water into me.  This keeps me in a good area in case the water runs out the wrong way when squeezing the bulb or there are any accidents.  

Note #2: DO NOT let the bulb suck the water OUT of you when it’s in.  This is just not good so keep a solid grasp on it. 

The reason I do a half bulb to start off is because this will also help to open the anal canal and rectum a bit.  As I mentioned, these aren’t necessarily going to be wide open or a straight line initially.  These canals are compressed with all your other organs, so when you do bottom, it’s not entirely wrong to say you’re getting your guts rearranged.  Cleaning out and some probing with your fingers will help them open a bit in general.

From this point, I push back out the water and excrement from the initial half bulb into the toilet.  And here is where you’re going to need to be conscious as to whether you want to do the standard clean or a deep clean.  If you’re doing a standard clean, you want to be especially careful with how much water you’re putting up there each time and make sure again, you’re squeezing it in slowly.  I’ll add how I do the deep clean farther down. 

For a Standard Clean 

If I’m doing a standard clean, what I’ll do next is move to squeezing a full bulb into me.   Then again, I push it back out.  Usually I do about two full bulbs after the initial half bulb, pushing out after each, and then take a 5 min break to move around my apartment.  This will let some of the residual water that may have stayed closer to the Second hole to flow back toward your sphincter.  After those 5 mins, I’ll see if I can just naturally push anything else out.  If not, that’s when I’ll break out a dildo. For a standard clean out, I’ll use a 7 inch dildo to help check myself after doing an initial cleaning. 

Again, I do this in the shower because there can DEFINITELY be some accidents at this juncture.  But I go ahead and lube up the dildo, make sure my hole is lubed up too and that I’ve stretched my sphincter a little more with my fingers.  Then I work the dildo into me and use it for a minute or so and see if there’s anything that comes out from that process.  If things stay clear, then I’ll take a min break, then apply another ½ bulb and push it out.  At this point, I’ll take a shower and rinse off and I’m ready to bottom. 

If using the dildo doesn’t end up being a clean experience, I’ll rinse off and apply another full bulb and push it back out then wait another 5 minutes.  Then I’ll use the dildo again (please make sure to clean it off after each use) and see where we’re at.  If things aren’t getting better at this point and I have time, I might just go to the deep cleaning process.  The fact is at this point, there’s going to be a lot of water that could have gotten past your second hole and it might be your only way of getting cleaned out.  If you don’t have the time for a deep clean, you might just have to surrender that it won’t be happening that night, or manually use your dildo to get yourself to as good a state as you can get.

For a Deep Clean

For doing deeper cleans, this is where I get more creative.  Picking up after I’ve pushed out the initial ½ bulb, I’ll then apply 2 full bulbs successively without pushing them out.  This could be hard for some guys and if there is any pain or issue, stop right there and re-evaluate if you need to go with another option.  But for me, after I’ve squeezed the two bulbs into me, I step into my room, still keeping the water in, and lay on a towel I’ve placed on the floor, get on my back, and pull my legs over my head.  From what I can tell, by doing this I’m letting the water enter past the Second hole and into the sigmoid colon.  This effectively triggers a lot of the stuff that’s in that section to move forward in your system and will cause a cascading effect.  After 10-15 seconds of these gymnastics, I’ll go back to the toilet and push the water out.  After taking a breath, I’ll go back and do that 2 bulb series a second time, empty it out, and then take a 30-45 min break to stretch, walk around or watch something. 

After my little break, I’ll again do the 2 bulbs at the same time once more.  At this point, we’re hoping the water has gotten clearer and most of the stuff in your system has moved out.  Usually at this point I’ll break out my 9 inch dildo, lube up, and work it into me and use it for about a min.  If things stay pretty clean at this point, I’ll finish up, do a half bulb, push it out, and then rinse off in the shower. 

If my dildo use wasn’t as clean as I’d hoped, I’ll rinse off, and then do 1 bulb and then wait after pushing it out.  Then I’ll go back to the dildo again to see if things have cleared up.  If things aren’t clearing up at this juncture, it might mean I need to do another 2 bulb series.  At this point it’s going to be touch and go and doing what is necessary til everything is cleared up. 

Comments and Notes:

• No matter how diligent you are, sometimes the old adage will just be true, “Shit happens”.  Everyone involved in having gay sex needs to know that and needs to accept it with grace and poise. It’ll be embarrassing for sure, but if you’re topping, you need to be understanding and not freak out about it.  If you’re bottoming, and think that there could be issues, you need to let the guy know beforehand so he can make the call as to whether he wants to proceed.  Either way, keep towels around (but not white ones for the love of god!). 

• Having an intimate understanding of your hole is pretty important, so I recommend doing these processes and then using your fingers and a dildo to investigate before you start doing this for actual fucking.  You’ll learn a lot and be able to build up some tactile knowledge of where you are in your own process after you’ve done it a couple times.  

• The fact of the matter is power washing your guts isn’t the healthiest thing in the world.  Underlying this whole process is a need to maintain a healthy diet for your gut health in general.  Work to maintain a whole foods based diet, take Pre & Probiotics, and definitely take breaks from the deep clean process for sure.  Otherwise you could cause some longer term issues and we don’t want that.  

• If my process doesn’t work for you, that’s fine! Definitely check out Erick’s youtube video that I linked above and look up other resources online (like this one) AND check with your doctor.  You need to figure out what works best for you and that can take time.  Don’t feel bad just because you haven’t figured out your process just yet.

- Darian Black

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